Over my career, I have been honored to work with fellow therapists, ministers, parents, teachers, doctors, nurses, first responders, law enforcement, social activists, Coaches, public defenders, non-profit professionals, Members of Congress, local government, and government employees. (Just to name a few.) ALL, without exception, had huge hearts and came to their professions from a sincere desire to help others and make the world a better place. There’s indeed a serious question I have contemplated about who got the better end of the deal—me or them.

And yes: all of them had dysfunction, trauma, abuse, or other negative experiences in their familial generational background (They indeed had on-the-job training). I am not saying that all people in healing professions share this history. And as I am wont to share with my clients, my favorite definition of a dysfunctional family is, “Any constellation that has more than one member.”  But the people I was lucky enough to work with were the ones who were hurting.  And thank God they were.  

Yes, pain really is the touchstone of growth—maybe not the only way to blossom into one’s fullness, but likely the most reliable one. And I mean it when I say they were lucky. Lucky to have felt forced to make the turn inward, instead of—to paraphrase James Hollis—being on the 18th green and dying unexpectedly of a heart attack with life-dissatisfaction never having been loud enough to be heard or listened to. Or worse yet: spewing all their unexamined pain onto others, most tragically the next generation.

I started Healing the Healers to address the needs of people who, as a result of their personal histories, generous natures, and careers in service, find themselves at a level of exhaustion—and often resentment—that is hurting them and compromising their mission. Many of these people have so much to offer the world, have no wish to abandon their calling, yet wonder how they can go on as they are. 

During my decades of practice, I have worked one-on-one with many wonderful people faced with the dilemma of having a sensitive, giving soul, but depleted energy. Joining with them in the hard work of moving beyond their stuckness, I have seen them go from exhausted, unmotivated, and resentful, to energized, motivated, and renewed; from giving out of anxiety, to giving to themselves and others out of love. Many of my clients have achieved long-sought-after inner peace by reclaiming their own life force and passion to bring others peace. My calling now is to bring this work to larger audiences. 

With my events, I offer an auditorium of over-givers a way out. A way to discover and examine the roots of their issues and a way to address their own needs. This not only alleviates their current situation but allows them to bring more creative and productive energy to their work and, more importantly, to their personal lives and relationships. 

What do I believe? 

I believe I have a lot of wisdom to share.

I believe I am at the point in my life-journey where I feel more compelled than ever to do what I can to help this world be a more loving, kinder place.

I believe I am only here because I have worked so many years, and continue to do so, on loving myself and seeing myself as loveable.

I don’t even like the sentence I just wrote about “working,” because less and less of the time do I think this evolution has to do with trying hard, and more and more do I see it as a process of letting go, slowing down, and surrendering.

I hope you will join me.